Shame, sex, and silence: Faith Harper at TEDxSanAntonio 2013

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Sex is one of those topics we allude to, joke about, dance around, but rarely really TALK about. Much of the therapeutic work done in counseling related to intimacy and sexuality is de-shaming common human experiences. A large percentage of that is pragmatic discussion and psychoeducation about sex. We take away the shame's power when we talk about these issues from a practical standpoint. The three most common issues I provide psychoeducation on in therapy are kegels, lube, and sensate touch. So often so, I have declared these topics "the holy trinity of sex therapy." Don't forget to Google "sensate touch."